YOUR OTHER HALF IS WITHIN

YOUR OTHER HALF IS WITHIN

These days, so many people are searching for a partner, a soul mate, their ‘other half’. They feel incomplete, 'single', without that ‘special someone’ in their life.But you are not half of a whole, friend. That is the lie. You have never been half of a whole. You are whole; that is your true nature.

If you are searching for a partner, or staying in a relationship, because you feel ‘half' of a whole, incomplete when alone, unhappy with your own solitude, fearful of the void, you will be bringing a partner into your field of unhappiness, and anxiety will rumble underneath the relationship.Find your happiness within.

Make happiness the field in which you live and have your being. Discover the joy of your aloneness. As long as you run away from your aloneness, you will always be lonely, however crowded your life is, because you will be running away from yourself, and that is the greatest pain of all.Find joy within. Be the one you have always sought.

Then, when and if you are ready, allow another dear one into that field. Let them hang out, play, stay if they stay, and leave if they leave. Take delight in their freedom. Connect deeply. Notice when you are happy, and notice when you are unhappy, but do not blame them or credit them for either.

Help them learn to love their own aloneness too.Maybe you will call them your friend, your partner, your lover. Maybe you will marry, maybe you will live together, maybe you will start a family, maybe you will never see each other again. In the joy of deep connection, the labels will not matter so much, and the future will take care of itself.And you will have found your other half within yourself. And the fear of loneliness will disappearinto sunsets.

- Jeff Foster